We've said it before, and it's worth saying again: Divorce can be one of the most contentious and emotionally draining times of a person's life. However, it doesn't need to be. Although you may associate divorce with frustration and endless fighting, there are other ways to work through the divorce process.

When you think of divorce as a transition time to be filled with self-reflection and personal growth, it may be easier to move through the process peacefully. Moreover, when you follow the suggestions below, it doesn't matter how your soon-to-be ex-spouse is acting, you can still find peace in the process.

First, it is important to accept responsibility for your actions. You may feel like the victim, and you may want to blame your ex for everything he or she did that dragged your marriage to the ground. In reality, however, you both played a part in the end of your marriage. Once you accept responsibility for the impact of your actions, it will be easier to move on.

It is also important to let go of the relationship you used to know. Stop thinking about how great your relationship once was and accept it for what it has become. When you think of your divorce as a transition instead of a failure, it can help you create the mental space you need to move on.

Next, regardless of how your partner treats you, it is critical that you maintain your commitment to a peaceful divorce. If he or she is insulting or critical, don't reply with the same tone. When your soon-to-be ex pushes your buttons and is accusatory, excuse yourself from the conversation. Give yourself time to cool off and then respond with a level head.

Finally, remember that your family is not ending with your divorce. If you have children, you will continue to see your ex at your children's events and during custody exchanges. Set the stage for your future interactions now by acting with positive energy and wisdom.

Divorce is not easy, but when you are intentional about maintaining inner peace, you can help make the divorce easier for yourself, your kids and even your ex.

Source: Huffington Post, "6 Steps to a Peaceful Divorce," Ashley Davis Bush, LCSW, Jan. 25, 2012